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squeeeeee! new followers. HAI to you! <3

this must mean my submission to Fuck Yeah Cute Trans Chicks was posted. =) yay

lets be honest

let’s be honest. when you say pansexual you mean everybody execpt for trans women. when you say bisexual you mean everybody except for trans women. when you say lesbian you mean cis women, not trans women. that is the cotton ceiling. the fact that we are shamed, we are considered disgusting, we are freaks, we are undesirable in queer sex circles when it comes to attraction. we are deemed unattractive. that’s we are righting. we do not want to rape you. we want to be told we are desirable. that we are attractive. the same thing most of my cisgender women want. do us the same favor, please. 

My thoughts on the whole Cotton Ceiling Debacle

This whole debate has made me really uncomfortable. It’s made me very pissed off. It’s made me feel really shitty about myself.

Here is what I’m thinking about the whole debate. 

The reaction to the whole Idea of the cotton ceiling from the radfem community is a based on a discussion of coerced sex, mainly penetration. The majority of radfem responses I’ve run into have been entirely based on the fact that they do not want to be forced to have sex with a penis, to be penetrated by a penis.

Here’s the thing. Honestly, as a trans woman who identifies as a lesbian with some bisexual tendencies… I don’t want to penetrate you with the equipment I possess. I do not want to engage in sex the way a straight male would interact with a woman. You want to know why? Because I’m not a man. I LOTHE penetration. It’s probably my least favorite thing about sex. I’d rather strap on a dildo, and go to town that way. I’d rather go down on you for hours. I’d rather finger you until the cows come home. I’d rather do anything else sexually with you than put my falice inside you, and especially with your consent. In fact, at the next available opportunity I’d like a surgeon to remove it and set me up with what I know I’m supposed to have. 

The response by the radfem community has reduced trans women to their body parts. You are doing exactly what straight men are doing. You are reducing an entire group into a body part. You are also reducing an entire complex community into pre-/non- operative trans women. What about post operative trans women who now have a female body? And how do you treat trans men. You support them and supposedly view them as men, but do not have the same respect for trans women. That is some internalized misogyny right there. 

Here’s the thing. I don’t want to rape you. I don’t want to rape anybody. I don’t want to do anything without your consent.

Here is what I want: I want you to want to be with trans women. And you know what that requires: Viewing me as women. Viewing me as female. I want to treated as equal in an intimate relationship. I don’t want you to view me as a man. I just want you to respect us, our identities, regardless of the bodies and or identities we ourselves were coerced into at birth. Much the same way that you were born into a world full of patriarchy, I was born into a world in which I was assigned male, even though in reality I am NOTHING like a male. I’m doing the best with my circumstances here. Just like you are. 

I’d also like to know what you do with interest people? What about people who have a penis, but are XXY? What about people who are androgen insensitive? What about all of that? You cannot seriously define them as men? as male? can you? 

Radfems, you’ve made me feel like shit this week. Complete and utter shit. You know who does that? People who are unaware of their own privilege. This just makes me sick. I’m going to go curl up in a ball in the shower and cry myself to sleep. 

this was a rant/ourpouring of feels. It problally docent make sense. 

NOTE: I don’t speak for all trans women. Only for myself. <3

just got told by my cisgender female partner that I don’t know the first thing about lesbian sex. evidently she still views me as a man in sex. evidently we’ve still been having straight sex for the past two years.

thanks for erasing me babe. 

this feels just great.

my girlfriend told me she “needs some time to figure things out” and that “she wants to take a break.”

then she goes posting on social networks how it was the “worst. night. ever.”

You’re the one who told me you wanted a break. not me. you don’t get to wine about this. you chose this. 

Next time I get sir-ed.

“Oh Sorry. I’m giving up being a man for Lent.”